Tuesdays are cursed-at least for me. Tuesdays always mean missed deadlines, unexpected problems, endless meetings, hastily consumed lunches at the desk while scrambling to finish a task, and most importantly, getting stuck in traffic. I no longer hate Mondays, like everyone else, because it always pales in comparison to the day that follows it.
Naturally, I’m going to be in a bad mood by the end of my shift. And when I’m in a bad mood and I don’t get myself out of it, I become a ugly, unrecognizable version of myself- one which isn’t fun to be around.
So spurred by Ahmad’s request that I do at least one thing to make me happy, I came up with a little plan that managed to take my mind off what happened through the day. I hope I can use it as a blueprint for when such days recur.Or if all else fails, I can just go ahead and bake.
Blow Off Some Steam
I’ve always found singing in the car, at the top of my lungs, to be oddly therapeutic. Focusing on singing the right lyrics at the right tempo always helps me set aside the ugly thoughts in my head. Currently, I have Adele’s Send My Love (To Your New Lover) stuck in my head- and it is that perfect belt-out and forget about everything kind of song.
In a similar vein, doing some form of workout is always a good idea. Readers of this blog know that I’ve been struggling with my weight so I’m really trying to get back in shape. But exercise isn’t just about weight loss- it’s about that boost of energy, it’s about putting on your favorite songs, and it’s definitely about focusing on being in the proper form.
While I didn’t feel like crossing the street to go to the gym, I still managed to get a good workout session in thanks to the Nike Training Club app. Bonus points for being able to cast it to my TV, while all my favorite Zumba and Salsa songs filled the house.
Allow yourself to have one thing that makes you happy, food-wise. That sounds slightly ironic considering that I just wrote a whole paragraph on exercise, but I don’t mean binge on food with reckless abandon.
When you understand that moderation is key, you can forgo cooking and doing in the dishes for one day in favor of a pizza.
Especially if that pizza just came out of the oven and the cheese is melted just the way you like it.
Come to think about it, when has pizza not turned a day around?
Surround Yourself With People Who Want You To Be The Best Version Of Yourself
When I’m in my bad mood, I tend to forget all about my good qualities, focusing more on the negative aspects. And I mean, it’s really hard to consider yourself as a hard worker or think of yourself in a positive light when you got told off for doing something the wrong way.
But this is where friends and family come in. They may not go on expressing how much they care for you in the most flowery language- but they do provide their support and insight. They also remind you to laugh, which is critical to not thinking about that screw-up or that traffic jam. I let go of all the negative thoughts once I was home with Ahmad, watching our favorite cooking shows (we watch a lot of those)- but what really turned it around, was talking on the phone with one my friends and getting updated on the latest happenings in her life.
Give Yourself Something To Look Forward To
I’m the plan-ahead kind of person, so it has bothered me that since the wedding, we haven’t been consumed with planning for something. But now that it’s August, I can think about an upcoming vacation (and the rush that comes with getting ready for the visa appointment). Vacations are always my favorite thing in the world- as I’m sure many of you will agree.
I’m also trying to break down my planning to smaller goals.
Like seeing the above-mentioned friend over the weekend or a board game night with the guys or a possible beach trip. Knowing that something I enjoy is coming up gives me the push to make it through the day or week.